I wanted to do a blog about Kyle. In Beauty from Ashes I wrote about our journey with autism, but there isn’t a lot of Kyle’s interests and personality. I would like to give you more of a glimpse into who he really is:
Kyle is twenty-seven years old. He is around 5′ 11″ tall, and people say he looks like my side of the family especially with his green eyes. Kyle loves to laugh and gives the best hugs! He has a silly side to him and is quite mischievous. If he comes out onto the cat-walk over looking the great room, I will look up and say, “Here comes trouble!” He will giggle and smile because he loves to be teased.
Kyle is an excellent beat-boxer. He’s also an avid Gaither’s fan, he listens to their music every day and beat-boxes while enjoying their tunes. He has perfect pitch and can sing along to all their songs. Gospel, country, bluegrass, classical and contemporary music are just a few of the genres he chooses to listen to.
Dressing up in silly get-ups is a past time Kyle has enjoyed for many years. The other day he had on my poncho and a pink scarf. Another day he might have on a Santa hat. If everyone turns and look when he walks into a room with his get-ups, he will giggle with delight.
Swimming was one of Kyle’s favourite activities up until a few years ago when his anxiety increased. I’m sure he could swim a mile and not be winded. He has also enjoyed skating, rollerblading, hiking, boating, snowshoeing, and he is fantastic on a swing. We had a friend build him a park size swing set two summers ago in our backyard. When he swings, he goes as high as possible without doing a 360 around the swing set. He can do all this with his arms out like a bird, not holding on. My poor mom would almost faint from fright when he was small and would do this.
Kyle enjoys the sound of toilets flushing and if he’s anxious everything gets flushed down the toilet. He once had an elderly aid at church named Calvin. He wanted to wear Calvin’s watch, and one Sunday Calvin brought him an old watch from home to wear. When Kyle went to the bathroom, Calvin heard the toilet flush and Kyle crying out “Nooo!” He had flushed the watch down the toilet but decided after that he wanted it back. Calvin came to us chuckling about the incident, telling us what happened. Calvin is a dear sweet man!
Kyle loves his family. Even though he finds our home noisy, he still likes to see his siblings when they come to visit. He loves having Mom and Dad to himself and is tickled pink when Vance takes him for long drives up to the bush. I tease Kyle that I’m his favourite parent, and make him say so, then he will burst into hysterical laughter.
Kyle’s most favourite past time … eating. He’s not fussy, he’ll eat just about anything. We eat in secret if it’s something that’s not on his current diet. Every once in a while he convinces us to give him candy. I hide my gym bag, or he’ll go rummaging through it looking for my gum. French fries, pasta and gluten-free pizza, are probably his all-time favourites foods to munch on.
Kyle is an amazing young man who has survived a lot of pain and suffering and could still smile at us every day. We are very proud of Kyle! He is our oldest child, and even though he has accomplished nothing in the world’s eyes, he has given our family more joy than we ever could have asked for. We are proud of all our kids, not of their accomplishments, but for graciously going on this autism journey with us and helping to carry Kyle along the way. What are achievements if we don’t have love. I would rather my children be at the bottom of the social ladder in education, finances, athletics and have love; than have fame, fortune and brains and not have love💗
Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, think no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7
Believing and hoping.